Need to Vent

[assateague]

This is a minor, but is getting me worked up. So here I am, lest I cause a rift in the family.


The FIL and MIL decided that they were going to rent a condo in at the beach this week, through Sunday. It was billed as a "family get together", and attendance was put forth as sort of "mandatory" (or at least assumed that everyone would be there).

Well, I'm not. I'm not certain what sort of self-important world some folks live in, but I generally don't just drop everything to go to what someone else decided would be mandatory fun. The wife is out of town, which was sort of a last minute thing, or at least it came about after the statement had been made that there was a family fun week. I was never asked, consulted, not anything- just assumed that I and the kids would be there. That's the biggest part that pisses me off. We've got horses, a dog, a puppy, chickens, baby chicks which need to be separated and put up every night, more baby chickens in the house, waiting to get a little older so they can go out to the coop as well, the normal housekeeping, kids to care for, the normal work week, and it's hunting season.

To be clear, I have never once said "I will be there". Matter of fact, I have said quite the contrary. Also, the beach is only about 15 miles away- it's not like this is some grand plan, involving plane tickets or something. I just get a call from FIL saying that he'll be here to pick up the kids at 5. I said, nope- the oldest is at her dad's this weekend, starting last night, and me and Layniebug are going to her soccer game. "What soccer game? We had this planned. What do you mean she's with her dad this weekend?" Apparently, the entire world is supposed to rearrange and accommodate someone else's schedule. Layniebug and I were going to stop and get Chinese food after the game, then have a relaxing evening with some quality time. Now, I'm going to have to deal with the FIL showing up to pick her up. To be fair, Layniebug will have fun, with her little cousin, but it pisses me off greatly that I'm told what's going to happen, like a grade schooler.

But it doesn't stop there. I was told "work it out with Taylor's dad, because he was supposed to let her come down this weekend". Well, I know nothing about this, and when Jen asked Taylor's dad, he said nope, because they had plans, and Short Stack has soccer practice on Saturday, anyway. How about- "not my fucking problem". I was then asked what time tomorrow I was coming down. Well, I'm not. I have to work. I have to take care of the animals. And I simply don't want to. Life is too short to blow a weekend. When I brought up all the shit I had to do, he said I could just "do it after work, and then come down". Well, that's nice. Except that I have no desire to sleep in some crowded ass condo with people I frankly don't like being around for long (except the FIL- he's actually pretty good), just to have to get up at about 4:30 Saturday morning, to drive a half hour home, take care of the animals, let Dutch out of the kennel, put him BACK in the kennel, drive BACK down, spend the day, drive BACK home to get my wife at the airport in the afternoon, drive her and I BACK down to the beach (after she's been gone all week), only to do it all again on Sunday.

No. You may kiss my ass. Not sure if it's just me, but it seems not only unrealistic, but pretty fucking piss poor to even EXPECT someone to do what I was "asked" to do, for the sake of some "family unity" bullshit. Not only that, but I would never even consider proposing to someone what was just put to me. Because it's fucking stupid. I'm not inconveniencing myself for anybody. And certainly not for people that I see about once a month, or three times a week, in the case of the FIL and MIL. I don't get it. But I fully expect there to be some blowout over this. And I'll just be forced to to tell them all to kiss my ass.

Ok, I think I'm done. But I'm not sure. I may have more.

[assateague]

Ok, I do. I'll break it down, just to demonstrate the jackassery that this entails.

The "proposed" schedule (what I was told I was gonna do. For the record, the beach is a one hour round trip, but the time it's all said and done)

TODAY
3:00 pick up Bug
4:00 watch Short Stack's soccer game
5:00 hurry home, to meet FIL at the house and drop off Bug

TOMORROW
Work
12:00 stop work early, lock up Dutch, and drive to beach
4:00 leave beach to drive home to feed horses, chickens, dogs, close up barn and coop for the night, exercise dogs, lock Dutch back up, and drive back to beach

SATURDAY
4:30 wake up, drive home to let out dogs, feed horses and chickens, turn all critters out for the day, lock Dutch back up, return to beach
2:30 leave beach, return home to pick up wife from airport
3:30 get back home from airport, get all critters back in, feed chickens, horses, dogs, and exercise the mutts.
4:30 return to beach for "family dinner"

SUNDAY
Begin all over again at 4:30, this time telling everyone to kiss my ass as I leave the condo for good, as the "family get together" is over


Mind you, I have a lot of shit I need to do, anyway. Supposed to be cutting firewood on Saturday morning and all day Sunday, but hey, I "can always do that next weekend".

I get soooo tired of that shit.

[flight control]

That sucks man. Sounds like you're fucked either way.

[(MT)Montanafowler]

Ok, I do. I'll break it down, just to demonstrate the jackassery that this entails.

The "proposed" schedule (what I was told I was gonna do. For the record, the beach is a one hour round trip, but the time it's all said and done)

TODAY
3:00 pick up Bug
4:00 watch Short Stack's soccer game
5:00 hurry home, to meet FIL at the house and drop off Bug

TOMORROW
Work
12:00 stop work early, lock up Dutch, and drive to beach
4:00 leave beach to drive home to feed horses, chickens, dogs, close up barn and coop for the night, exercise dogs, lock Dutch back up, and drive back to beach

SATURDAY
4:30 wake up, drive home to let out dogs, feed horses and chickens, turn all critters out for the day, lock Dutch back up, return to beach
2:30 leave beach, return home to pick up wife from airport
3:30 get back home from airport, get all critters back in, feed chickens, horses, dogs, and exercise the mutts.
4:30 return to beach for "family dinner"

SUNDAY
Begin all over again at 4:30, this time telling everyone to kiss my ass as I leave the condo for good, as the "family get together" is over


Mind you, I have a lot of shit I need to do, anyway. Supposed to be cutting firewood on Saturday morning and all day Sunday, but hey, I "can always do that next weekend".

I get soooo tired of that shit.

volunteer them all to come to your place to take care of the animals and chop wood next weekend, make it a "family get together"

[assateague]

I'll make it "mandatory", and just call them and ask how they're rearranging their schedules to accommodate my plans. If they don't, I will sneer at them, and talk disgustedly.


I'm still very pissed about the whole assumed attitude of this shit.

[(MT)Montanafowler]

I'll make it "mandatory", and just call them and ask how they're rearranging their schedules to accommodate my plans. If they don't, I will sneer at them, and talk disgustedly.


I'm still very pissed about the whole assumed attitude of this shit.

got the same shit going down with a family reunion, they expect me to drive to California in November. Told them to get bent if they think i'm gonna be there.

[bill herian]

I can't wait for them to ask you to pay for your portion of the condo.

[assateague]

I think not.

[assateague]

Beel, I'm on edge. Don't push.

[bill herian]

Now Jim, you can't expect them to pay for this whole thing out of pocket, they were generous enough to make all the arrangements.

[Tomkat]

You see???

If you were a hand loader, you could tell them you were busy loading rounds to get ready for deer season.......



I would go with the kiss my ass route.

It has been my go-to response to just about every thing I didnt like for over 40 years.

You can see how it has won me many a popularity contest.

So let's face it Jim. You are going to bitch and whine, then do whatever the wife tells you to do.



Love is a many splendid thing.....

[(MT)Montanafowler]

Now Jim, you can't expect them to pay for this whole thing out of pocket, they were generous enough to make all the arrangements.

[one2many]

here i thought it was only me that had to deal with "family" shit all the time.
good luck!

[Tomkat]

Me and the wife have out lived all of our PIA realitives.

FREEDOM!!!!

[Redbeard]

I can't read any further. This thread is stressing me out

[assateague]

You see???

If you were a hand loader, you could tell them you were busy loading rounds to get ready for deer season.......



I would go with the kiss my ass route.

It has been my go-to response to just about every thing I didnt like for over 40 years.

You can see how it has won me many a popularity contest.

So let's face it Jim. You are going to bitch and whine, then do whatever the wife tells you to do.



Love is a many splendid thing.....

The wife wants no part of it. She's been 2,000 miles from home living in a hotel for a week, and is expected to get off the plane and go straight to stay at a family gathering condo, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. I've already told her that I will happily take the blame for a no-show.

She never approved this deal, either. It was presented to her the same way as me.

[Redbeard]

You see???

If you were a hand loader, you could tell them you were busy loading rounds to get ready for deer season.......



I would go with the kiss my ass route.

It has been my go-to response to just about every thing I didnt like for over 40 years.

You can see how it has won me many a popularity contest.

So let's face it Jim. You are going to bitch and whine, then do whatever the wife tells you to do.



Love is a many splendid thing.....

The wife wants no part of it. She's been 2,000 miles from home living in a hotel for a week, and is expected to get off the plane and go straight to stay at a family gathering condo, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. I've already told her that I will happily take the blame for a no-show.

She never approved this deal, either. It was presented to her the same way as me.

so are you gonna tell your FIL and MIL to kiss your ass? Sounds like sound advice

[Mornin Beef]

Just suck it up and bring all the animals over there.

[Redbeard]

Just suck it up and bring all the animals over there.

or he could tell the animals to kiss his ass too

[Mornin Beef]

Just suck it up and bring all the animals over there.

or he could tell the animals to kiss his ass too

He has baby chickens, they're too small, they're just too goddamn small for any of this. GODDAMMIT WHY??????

[Redbeard]

Just suck it up and bring all the animals over there.

or he could tell the animals to kiss his ass too

He has baby chickens, they're too small, they're just too goddamn small for any of this. GODDAMMIT WHY??????

it's a harsh world we live in. And if you ain't hard enough and cold enough, you'll wind up in California living amongst hippies

[Mornin Beef]

Just suck it up and bring all the animals over there.

or he could tell the animals to kiss his ass too

He has baby chickens, they're too small, they're just too goddamn small for any of this. GODDAMMIT WHY??????

it's a harsh world we live in. And if you don't hard enough and cold enough, you'll wind up in California living amongst hippies

That's wisdom. Here that assa, little shot of the cold hard truth for ya.

[Redbeard]

Ya wanna wind up in a hippie commune??

[flight control]

he'd end up with the lead hippie's head on a pike in front of his tent.

[Tomkat]

You see???

If you were a hand loader, you could tell them you were busy loading rounds to get ready for deer season.......



I would go with the kiss my ass route.

It has been my go-to response to just about every thing I didnt like for over 40 years.

You can see how it has won me many a popularity contest.

So let's face it Jim. You are going to bitch and whine, then do whatever the wife tells you to do.



Love is a many splendid thing.....

The wife wants no part of it. She's been 2,000 miles from home living in a hotel for a week, and is expected to get off the plane and go straight to stay at a family gathering condo, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. I've already told her that I will happily take the blame for a no-show.

She never approved this deal, either. It was presented to her the same way as me.

so are you gonna tell your FIL and MIL to kiss your ass? Sounds like sound advice

Thanks Buddy. Like I said, I have out lived my inlaws. Every one else can .....well, right there, close to the hole, if you please.

Hey, did you tell the kids soccer coach how you really feel the other day?

[assateague]

"Listen, fucker"




What just had to come out of my mouth in the last conversation with the FIL. We'll see how this plays out.

[assateague]

This whole "family togetherness" shit started about 6 months ago, for the record.

[(MT)Montanafowler]

"Listen, fucker"




What just had to come out of my mouth in the last conversation with the FIL. We'll see how this plays out.

someone's gonna be sleeping on the couch soon

[Tomkat]

"Listen, fucker"




What just had to come out of my mouth in the last conversation with the FIL. We'll see how this plays out.

There you go....some times its worth it to let it all out.....

[AKPirate]

That reminds me, Red, did you tell the soccer coach what you thought about the situation?