Need to Vent
Posted: Thu Sep 26, 2013 12:45 pmThis is a minor, but is getting me worked up. So here I am, lest I cause a rift in the family.
The FIL and MIL decided that they were going to rent a condo in at the beach this week, through Sunday. It was billed as a "family get together", and attendance was put forth as sort of "mandatory" (or at least assumed that everyone would be there).
Well, I'm not. I'm not certain what sort of self-important world some folks live in, but I generally don't just drop everything to go to what someone else decided would be mandatory fun. The wife is out of town, which was sort of a last minute thing, or at least it came about after the statement had been made that there was a family fun week. I was never asked, consulted, not anything- just assumed that I and the kids would be there. That's the biggest part that pisses me off. We've got horses, a dog, a puppy, chickens, baby chicks which need to be separated and put up every night, more baby chickens in the house, waiting to get a little older so they can go out to the coop as well, the normal housekeeping, kids to care for, the normal work week, and it's hunting season.
To be clear, I have never once said "I will be there". Matter of fact, I have said quite the contrary. Also, the beach is only about 15 miles away- it's not like this is some grand plan, involving plane tickets or something. I just get a call from FIL saying that he'll be here to pick up the kids at 5. I said, nope- the oldest is at her dad's this weekend, starting last night, and me and Layniebug are going to her soccer game. "What soccer game? We had this planned. What do you mean she's with her dad this weekend?" Apparently, the entire world is supposed to rearrange and accommodate someone else's schedule. Layniebug and I were going to stop and get Chinese food after the game, then have a relaxing evening with some quality time. Now, I'm going to have to deal with the FIL showing up to pick her up. To be fair, Layniebug will have fun, with her little cousin, but it pisses me off greatly that I'm told what's going to happen, like a grade schooler.
But it doesn't stop there. I was told "work it out with Taylor's dad, because he was supposed to let her come down this weekend". Well, I know nothing about this, and when Jen asked Taylor's dad, he said nope, because they had plans, and Short Stack has soccer practice on Saturday, anyway. How about- "not my fucking problem". I was then asked what time tomorrow I was coming down. Well, I'm not. I have to work. I have to take care of the animals. And I simply don't want to. Life is too short to blow a weekend. When I brought up all the shit I had to do, he said I could just "do it after work, and then come down". Well, that's nice. Except that I have no desire to sleep in some crowded ass condo with people I frankly don't like being around for long (except the FIL- he's actually pretty good), just to have to get up at about 4:30 Saturday morning, to drive a half hour home, take care of the animals, let Dutch out of the kennel, put him BACK in the kennel, drive BACK down, spend the day, drive BACK home to get my wife at the airport in the afternoon, drive her and I BACK down to the beach (after she's been gone all week), only to do it all again on Sunday.
No. You may kiss my ass. Not sure if it's just me, but it seems not only unrealistic, but pretty fucking piss poor to even EXPECT someone to do what I was "asked" to do, for the sake of some "family unity" bullshit. Not only that, but I would never even consider proposing to someone what was just put to me. Because it's fucking stupid. I'm not inconveniencing myself for anybody. And certainly not for people that I see about once a month, or three times a week, in the case of the FIL and MIL. I don't get it. But I fully expect there to be some blowout over this. And I'll just be forced to to tell them all to kiss my ass.
Ok, I think I'm done. But I'm not sure. I may have more.
The FIL and MIL decided that they were going to rent a condo in at the beach this week, through Sunday. It was billed as a "family get together", and attendance was put forth as sort of "mandatory" (or at least assumed that everyone would be there).
Well, I'm not. I'm not certain what sort of self-important world some folks live in, but I generally don't just drop everything to go to what someone else decided would be mandatory fun. The wife is out of town, which was sort of a last minute thing, or at least it came about after the statement had been made that there was a family fun week. I was never asked, consulted, not anything- just assumed that I and the kids would be there. That's the biggest part that pisses me off. We've got horses, a dog, a puppy, chickens, baby chicks which need to be separated and put up every night, more baby chickens in the house, waiting to get a little older so they can go out to the coop as well, the normal housekeeping, kids to care for, the normal work week, and it's hunting season.
To be clear, I have never once said "I will be there". Matter of fact, I have said quite the contrary. Also, the beach is only about 15 miles away- it's not like this is some grand plan, involving plane tickets or something. I just get a call from FIL saying that he'll be here to pick up the kids at 5. I said, nope- the oldest is at her dad's this weekend, starting last night, and me and Layniebug are going to her soccer game. "What soccer game? We had this planned. What do you mean she's with her dad this weekend?" Apparently, the entire world is supposed to rearrange and accommodate someone else's schedule. Layniebug and I were going to stop and get Chinese food after the game, then have a relaxing evening with some quality time. Now, I'm going to have to deal with the FIL showing up to pick her up. To be fair, Layniebug will have fun, with her little cousin, but it pisses me off greatly that I'm told what's going to happen, like a grade schooler.
But it doesn't stop there. I was told "work it out with Taylor's dad, because he was supposed to let her come down this weekend". Well, I know nothing about this, and when Jen asked Taylor's dad, he said nope, because they had plans, and Short Stack has soccer practice on Saturday, anyway. How about- "not my fucking problem". I was then asked what time tomorrow I was coming down. Well, I'm not. I have to work. I have to take care of the animals. And I simply don't want to. Life is too short to blow a weekend. When I brought up all the shit I had to do, he said I could just "do it after work, and then come down". Well, that's nice. Except that I have no desire to sleep in some crowded ass condo with people I frankly don't like being around for long (except the FIL- he's actually pretty good), just to have to get up at about 4:30 Saturday morning, to drive a half hour home, take care of the animals, let Dutch out of the kennel, put him BACK in the kennel, drive BACK down, spend the day, drive BACK home to get my wife at the airport in the afternoon, drive her and I BACK down to the beach (after she's been gone all week), only to do it all again on Sunday.
No. You may kiss my ass. Not sure if it's just me, but it seems not only unrealistic, but pretty fucking piss poor to even EXPECT someone to do what I was "asked" to do, for the sake of some "family unity" bullshit. Not only that, but I would never even consider proposing to someone what was just put to me. Because it's fucking stupid. I'm not inconveniencing myself for anybody. And certainly not for people that I see about once a month, or three times a week, in the case of the FIL and MIL. I don't get it. But I fully expect there to be some blowout over this. And I'll just be forced to to tell them all to kiss my ass.
Ok, I think I'm done. But I'm not sure. I may have more.
