aunt betty wrote:banknote wrote:My dad got a lab pup from a backyard breeder back in the 70s, I think I was about 6-7 years old. Wanted a family dog that he could hunt with. We named it Shadow. On two occasions it bit/nipped the face of a child, one being my younger sister and the other a school friend. I recall that both were instances where the child was face to face with the pup and it snapped at them. It didn't grab on, but it drew blood. That dog was sent to "live on a farm" and my dad subsequently decided it was worth the coin to go to a real breeder. We ended up with a golden that we trained and ran in field trials for a couple years and turned out to be the best hunting dog I've ever known. I need another one of those, soon....
My dad always blamed the choice of that pup on my mom (not to her face.) He used to tell me never let a woman pick your dog. She'll go for the runt because it looks the most docile and needy. Then it ends up biting a kid because it feels threatened by everyone.
This goes for training too. Took me til the third dog to convince the wife and kids to quit effin' up my retrievers by teaching them tricks and feeding them scraps off their dinner plates.
It's something some of us have to deal with..."the little helpers".
My current Lab will not fetch a stick but will just run right by it looking for a dummy or a duck.
He won't shake-hands, roll over, sit pretty, or hold a dog biscuit on his nose until the release word is said.
I allowed my wife and daughter to do this kind of crap to my first Lab and the second one too.
Big mistake.
The food thing is tough. My last dog had no interest in human food until he was well past a year old. On a road trip, I once put a hamburger on the floor of my rig for him to eat and he wouldn't touch it unless I broke it up and put it in his bowl. After we attended a few backyard bbqs, he started to realize he had a chance at other people's food. I almost punched my dad in the nose the day I caught him feeding him scraps straight from the table. FUUUUUCK!!!!!
When he as a young pup, I used hand clapping as one of his "come" commands. Then one day I caught my girlfriend scolding him with clapping in a way that startled him. I asked her not to do that anymore and she took it personally. The dog lasted a lot longer than that relationship.
The other thing was people playing fetch with him, incessantly saying "drop it, drop it, DROP IT, DROP IT...." and I'd tell them "Just say 'leave it' once. He'll do it," and they'd go "LEAVE IT LEAVE IT LEAVE IT" and not even give him a chance to obey. I see people do this with their own dogs all the time, and even when the dog does obey, they don't praise. Then they wonder why it never listens.