The Theory of Medium©

[assateague]

Ok, while the 50/50™ is sort of (but only sort of) tongue in cheek, the Theory of Medium© is very much practiced by me every day. I've found that it works well. It's based off of the idea that compromise is actually a bad thing for all parties involved, and is something to be avoided. The reason is that, to me, it's better to have one person/party as happy as possible, rather than both being equally miserable. Compromise is supposed to make both sides happy, but the overwhelming majority of the time, it makes both parties equally unhappy instead, and it also leads to downward emotions, not upward. It also applies to things as well, but we'll get to that.

For example, if I want Chinese and the wife wants Italian, we don't compromise and get BBQ. Then we would both be settling for something we didn't want. Not only would neither be happy, but the unhappiness, the feeling of "settling for" would contaminate the whole evening. I would argue for Chinese to the best of my ability, and she would argue for Italian to the best of her ability, and then we would choose one or the other. This way, one of us is happy, and THAT is contagious. Everybody's been in a situation full of miserable people- the overall tone is one of misery, because it's contagious. But if there's one or two happy people mixed in there, that will spread throughout everybody. Furthermore, if we get BBQ, I will be concentrating on Chinese, and my wife will be concentrating on Italian, and how good _________ would have been. Because of this, neither can concentrate on what they're having. If we go to Italian, I may find something I like even more than Chinese, or didn't know existed. Because my wife is happy, I'm more inclined to find something enjoyable, and vice versa.

Same with things. Everybody knows this, but doesn't realize it. A Leatherman pair of pliers is nowhere near as good as a real pair of pliers. The knife in a Leatherman is nowhere near as good as a knife which was made to be a knife. But we "settle" for the convenience, and are a little unhappy with both the knife and the pliers, whether we care to admit it or not. Like Grizz was talking about- planning to go fishing, and taking a wakeboard as well will almost surely guarantee that while fishing, someone would wish they were wakeboarding, and while wakeboarding, someone will wish they were fishing. Do one or the other. Without a wakeboard, the guy who would have been wishing he was wakeboarding may find himself just enjoying BSing and drinking beers while everyone is fishing, something he wouldn't have done if he had the wakeboard present to think about. A gun designed for long range shooting and CQB will most assuredly be a failure at both, leaving you "wanting" in both situations, rather than coming up with a way to make what you DO have work in any situation. A boat hull designed for open water and shallow marsh will suck at both. Compromise is bad.

Avoiding "Medium" allows people to focus on the now, and try to enjoy what you DO have, rather than compromising. And that's the Theory of Medium© Avoid compromise, but don't be a dick about it. Realize that you win some and you lose some, and that the best thing to do in any situation is make the best of it and find something in it to enjoy, rather than wishing for something you don't have.

The End.

[rebelp74]

Sorry, too much to read.

[The Duck Hammer]

Can you sum it up?

[assateague]

Nope.

[The Duck Hammer]

50/50 you can. Your just not trying.

[assateague]

Actually I retract that.

Don't compromise. And if you don't get your way, be a man and find something good about it, rather than sulking like a 5 year old. Enjoy the happiness of others. And get things for a purpose, not because they can do a bunch of shit. They won't do any of it very well.

[rebelp74]

Sounds good. Why isn't it called that's how life works?

[The Duck Hammer]

Actually I retract that.

Don't compromise. And if you don't get your way, be a man and find something good about it, rather than sulking like a 5 year old. Enjoy the happiness of others. And get things for a purpose, not because they can do a bunch of shit. They won't do any of it very well.

[assateague]

Sounds good. Why isn't it called that's how life works?

Because that's not how life works. Everybody wants everybody to be equally happy/successful/content/satisfied. When really, they are all equally miserable. Compromise is viewed as good, when really it's bad. Enjoy your time when it's your time, but recognize that it's not always "your time". The Theory of Medium© is a direct attack on the "everyone gets a trophy" BS.

If your girlfriend didn't have an orgasm, compromise would dictate that you had to stop before finishing too. That's BS. You would both be miserable. Your crappy attitude after that would cause her to have a crappy attitude. 100% happiness on one side usually leads to close to 100% happiness on both sides, if you let it. 50% happiness on both sides almost always leads to 0% happiness on both sides.

[rebelp74]

Sounds good. Why isn't it called that's how life works?

Because that's not how life works. Everybody wants everybody to be equally happy/successful/content/satisfied. When really, they are all equally miserable. Compromise is viewed as good, when really it's bad. Enjoy your time when it's your time, but recognize that it's not always "your time". The Theory of Medium© is a direct attack on the "everyone gets a trophy" BS.

If your girlfriend didn't have an orgasm, compromise would dictate that you had to stop before finishing too. That's BS. You would both be miserable. Your crappy attitude after that would cause her to have a crappy attitude. 100% happiness on one side usually leads to close to 100% happiness on both sides, if you let it. 50% happiness on both sides almost always leads to 0% happiness on both sides.

Exactly, that is how life works. Not how it should or what would be fair or right.

You're born, shit happens, then you die- that's life. It's all about what you make it to be.

[grizz18]

My favorite theory, one that I try and live by whenever possible.

[jarbo03]

Sent from a gnarly phone with a kickstand

[3legged_lab]

Mind. Blown. But I would like to see your copyright.

[assateague]

Alt 0169. That's about as official as my copyright gets

[aunt betty]

To sum it up...

You cant always get what you want.
But if you try sometime,
You just might find...
You get what you need.

[Pungo]

Very interesting assa.

[jarbo03]

To sum it up...

You cant always get what you want.
But if you try sometime,
You just might find...
You get what you need.

:lol:

Sent from a gnarly phone with a kickstand

[waterfowlman]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

[jehler]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

[rebelp74]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

[waterfowlman]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

Is this "iron gut" John talking or did your wife hack your account?

[jehler]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

Is this "iron gut" John talking or did your wife hack your account?

iron gut? I don't know where you heard that, I know every public toilet from escanaba to Cadillac!

[jehler]

And I can say with absolute certainty there are brown trout in every body of water I have ever hunted

[jarbo03]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

Is this "iron gut" John talking or did your wife hack your account?

iron gut? I don't know where you heard that, I know every public toilet from escanaba to Cadillac!

Must be part of being in construction, I am the same way.

Sent from a gnarly phone with a kickstand

[Tomkat]

"You are born at point A and you die at point Z. Kick maximum ass in between. "

Ted Nugent


J & B .....it whispers

[waterfowlman]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

Is this "iron gut" John talking or did your wife hack your account?

iron gut? I don't know where you heard that, I know every public toilet from escanaba to Cadillac!

You need to spend a few years in Bangkok eating from the street vendors.....

[rebelp74]

Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

Is this "iron gut" John talking or did your wife hack your account?

iron gut? I don't know where you heard that, I know every public toilet from escanaba to Cadillac!

You need to spend a few years in Bangkok eating from the street vendors.....

That food is awesome. Spicy as hell but awesome.

[3legged_lab]

[quote="waterfowlman"]Why can't you go to a Chinese restaurant for appetizers and an Italian restaurant for the entree? Drink to excess at both places, go home happy!

in my gut that would be the equivalent of a daisy cutter, moab, BOWMAG....you get the picture

Is this "iron gut" John talking or did your wife hack your account?

iron gut? I don't know where you heard that, I know every public toilet from escanaba to Cadillac!

You need to spend a few years in Bangkok eating from the street vendors.....

That food is awesome. Spicy as hell but awesome.[/quote]
The spice is meant to cover up the rancid.

[rebelp74]

The produce and fish are actually really fresh. The super heat covers up the fish sauce, crab paste and other nasty shit like that they put in it.

[assateague]

"Fresh" is a relative term. Every piece of blood sausage I've ever eaten in that part of the world had to have the flies waved off of it first, so it could be cut up and put in a twist of newspaper.